Observe your critical voice to put distance between it and you – and remember that the most attractive women are those who carry themselves with pride
The dilemma How can I be less self-conscious and less full of self-hatred about my untoned, middle-aged, sagging body when unclothed? This means I’m inhibited in many ways and avoid activities where I need to show my arms and, worse, my legs or my belly. I dread having to wear a swimming costume, even though I do enjoy swimming. It also means I don’t feel comfortable being naked with my partner during sex. It even affects which positions we take – I can’t bring myself to be on top as I feel so ashamed of my sagging belly and breasts.
I walk a lot, I go to yoga, I do Pilates and other classes several times a week, and love what my body can achieve in these classes. I’m almost 60 and have a good diet (no meat, plenty of fish, pulses, fruit and a wide range of vegetables). I am about 2st overweight and have struggled with this most of my life.
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